Being happy and living at the moment: Aisha Chaudhari at TEDxPune

Getting away with what holds us from realizing our Dreams in Life.

We all have hopes and dreams, ambitions for achieving more in our lives. We all want to do something new, or let go of something that no longer serves us. So what keeps holding us back?

Many times, we are the road block on our path to success. It is our own doubts, fears, and insecurities that keep us from doing what we need to do to succeed.

So how can you start getting out of your own way? I have learnt on some few ways that can help you keep in track towards living a fulfilling life.

 

1. Take Responsibility for Your Own Life and Your Current Situation: This can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do but it is also one of the most empowering. Everyone has their own “blame story” that they need to release: He did this to me, she won’t let me do it, they always make me feel like I can’t, he’s holding me back, I had this experience or that experience, etc. While these may all be valid events or situations, it is your response to those experiences that determines whether you’re really holding yourself back or moving yourself forward.

Once you take responsibility for your own life, you can stop blaming others for your situation and also stop being a victim. When you no longer think like a victim, you realize YOU can change your personal situation, you can easily choose to do things differently.

Nelson Mandela once said that "as I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” 

What is your “blame story”? How can you begin to let go of that today? Many times it’s about forgiving. Other times, it’s reframing the situation and choosing to look at things differently, in a more positive and constructive way. For example, instead of thinking about it like “I was put in a bad situation and now I’ll never succeed,” you might think “How do I move ahead and make this better?”

In almost all cases, it takes practice. It takes observing your mindset. When you find yourself slipping back into your old way of thinking, you must make a conscious shift. Over time, you will succeed.

2. Identify Your Self-Limiting Beliefs – Replace Them With A Powerful Mantra: You may think “I don’t blame other people, so this doesn’t really apply to me.”  However, you still may be limiting yourself. You may not even realize that you have self-limiting beliefs. But if you pay attention, they will reveal themselves. Some of the most common self-limiting beliefs are:  

•   I don’t deserve to make any more money.

• There are so many people already doing what I want to do, I’ll never succeed anyway.

• People who have money are dishonest. Honest people like me just don’t have that kind of financial success.

• I’m not as good as 123 at my job. She deserves it more than I do.

• I don’t deserve it because of 123.

• I’m not good enough, smart enough, thin enough, rich enough, young enough, etc.

• I don’t have enough education, training, certifications, etc.

What are your self-limiting beliefs? Observe your thoughts and write them down. Acknowledging those beliefs is the first step to changing them. Replace them with positive affirmations or mantras. Affirmations are positive statements you can read or think about to help shift your mindset, while mantras are specific items of focus. Both affirmations and mantras are powerful tools to help you eliminate what’s holding you back.

One of my favorite financial role models has been Suze Orman. When she was a struggling waitress, she didn’t feel strong or confident and also didn’t know how to manage her money. In her book, The Money Class, Suze Orman recounts how she recited the following mantra at least three times per day to help her shift her beliefs, and today, she is all those things:

I am young, powerful, and successful, and I make at least $10,000 a month. ~ Suze Orman’s Mantra at Age 29

What is one mantra you can create and begin using today? Write it down and place it in conspicuous places – on your bathroom mirror, on your computer, in your wallet, by your alarm clock. Practice reciting it over and over again. You will notice an immediate shift in your mindset. Keep your mantra short so it is easy to remember, and don’t limit yourself. Suze used the term “at least” when talking about money. Also, don’t use the terms, “I wish” or “I hope.” Be strong in your mantra.

3. Stop Worrying About What Other People Think: 

 We’ve all heard this one before, but seriously, stop worrying about what other people think. Focus on being true to yourself and becoming the person you know you can be. When you spend time worrying about what someone else might think, what they want you to do or not do, you are limiting yourself and not achieving your full potential.

4. Stop “Shoulding” On Yourself: 

 This phrase comes from Tony Robbins and is an easy habit to slip into. “I should go to the gym more, I should eat healthier, I should work harder, I should, I should, I should…..”

Every time you use should statements, you are telling yourself that you’re not enough and that you’re not doing enough. This causes you to feel guilt and anxiety which isn’t very empowering. Instead of using should statements, change them to I want to, I will, or I am. You will feel more empowered and will eliminate the guilt that comes with should statements.

5. Stop Using Unhealthy Coping Strategies: 

When you’re feeling stressed or discouraged, you may turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms. You know what they are – overeating, drinking, smoking, ignoring your positive routines, pulling away from your friends and family, or feeling sorry for yourself. I strongly believe that we all have them.

                        .........Success is all in your mind........

COST OF QUICK AND SLOW DECISIONS

In my endeavors to finding the real difference between successful and unsuccessful people, I came across an interesting story about the world's first Billionnaire. I found it pretty wise to share the same with you.

 Do you know why 95% of people out there never “have enough” of anything and find themselves lost, confused, and constantly searching for the reason WHY?

The answer is simple…

"Most people will loose more to indecision than they will to a bad decision."
Andrew Carnegie.

This is not only the truth; it is the Number One reason people remain unsuccessful in their lives. Even the unsuccessful people aware of this principle remain unconvinced of how powerful decisions are and how debilitating indecision can be.

Let me ask you this…

If someone asked you to give up the next 20 years of your life, without being paid, how long would it take you to make that decision?

Maybe you know the story of Andrew Carnegie (believed to be the world’s first Billionaire 

He called a young cub reporter into his office and asked him to devote 20 years to interviewing only the world’s richest people in order to share ‘The Secret’ of wealth, success, and happiness with the rest of the world.

But, did you know that Mr. Carnegie secretly held a stopwatch beneath his desk and gave Napoleon Hill only 60 seconds to answer yes or no before he would lose the opportunity forever? Mr. Carnegie knew that if Napoleon required more time to think about it then he was the wrong guy.

You see, Mr. Carnegie knew that 'Successful People' make decisions quickly.

Napoleon Hill took 32 seconds to say YES... and his lack of indecision led to the writing of "Think and Grow Rich," the best-selling book responsible for helping to create an estimated One Million Millionaires!

Born into poverty in 1883, Napoleon Hill rose to become one of the world’s most distinguished and respected authors of all time. He moved from newspaper reporter to law student to working for Andrew Carnegie, and became a confidant and advisor to businessmen and presidents. Hill has counted among his many associates Franklin D. Roosevelt, Mahatma Gandhi, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and hundreds of other world leaders.
Can you imagine becoming the richest person in the world and then giving your money away? That's exactly what Andrew Carnegie did. After retiring in 1901 at the age of 66 as the world's richest man, Andrew Carnegie wanted to become a philanthropist, a person who gives money to good causes. He believed in the "Gospel of Wealth," which meant that wealthy people were morally obligated to give their money back to others in society. 

Life is all about decisions in all aspects. The time we take to make and implement on such decisions is of great essence. Give yourself a challenge today of monitoring the decisions you make and in the long run you will see the difference.

YOU CAN ALWAYS TRY AGAIN AND AGAIN.

Read the story of a man who tried 15 times on his way to building a multi million real estate here in Kenya.



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LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE

I found this story so inspiring and felt that it can also inspire you as well.

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. “Mom and Dad, I’m coming home, but I’ve got a favor to ask. I have a friend I’d like to bring with me.” “Sure,” they replied, “we’d love to meet him.” “There’s something you should know,” the son continued, “he lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go and I want him to come live with us.” “I’m sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live.” “No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us.” “Son,” said the father, “you don’t know what you’re asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can’t let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He’ll find a way to live on his own.”

At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was a suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn’t know. Their son had only one arm and one leg.

The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don’t like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren’t as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are. Thankfully, there’s someone who won’t treat us that way. Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are.

FORGET ABOUT THE PAST AND PRESS ON, NEVER GIVE UP.

There comes a time in life when you feel you can't press on any longer simply because of the past failures. It follows that after trying and trying and trying, you arrive at a conclusion that it will never turn out in your favour. It is at this particular moment that you should encourage yourself the more of trying once again. Harriet Beecher Stowe once said that,`When you get into a  tight place and  everything goes against  you, till it seems as  though you could not  hang on a minute  longer, never give up  then, for that is just the  place and time that the  tide will turn.' This is absolutely true. Referring to the Bible also,we get to know that there is no challenge or temptation that will be formed beyond your strength, so you should forget the past failures you've ever come across and know that no condition is permanent. Sorrows and tribulations may befall you overnight but Joy comes in the morning. Sir Winston Churchill, who is well known for his motivation summed up his life in three words,`Never give up.' This was after going through various tests and failing but one day he emerged victorious. In your endeavors to live the life of your dream, determination and resilience should be your guide and finally you should never give up, the best is yet to come.